Hubby and I found a new marriage counselor. We love our last one, but unfortunately though we learned a lot from him we got too close and similar wounds don’t work well together. We found our new counselor through his ministry, Awesome Marriage. His name is Kim Kimberling if you happen to be looking for a counselor, he’s been doing this a long time. We are seeing him about once a month at this point in our marriage. Hubby and I do a lot of things well together, that comes with 29 years of familiarity. We aren’t just married either, we work together too. With that scenario comes a whole new set of issues because we have to fulfill one another’s “cuddos” in the workplace as well as home. We go to counseling because we are both committed to having an excellent marriage not just when there are problems. Sometimes there are pressing issues and other times we uncover new topics to explore. This month we talked about what it looks like to be a team.
When I think of Hubby and I as a team, I always see Jesus there with us. It takes all three to make marriage all it can be. Some days it takes Jesus to prevent you from doing bodily harm to your spouse, lol. 😳Marriage is tough, at least it is to us. When you want to do something, at any given time a day, you must consider another person. When I was talking with Jesus about team this morning, He gave me some clear pictures of where I could be a better teammate to Hubby. Each morning before Hubby leaves for work, he sits next to me on our bed and prays for me. For some reason, I haven’t been able to offer that to him in that moment, I just receive. I don’t know if it’s an early morning thing or what but it bugs me about myself. As Jesus gently showed me that time in the morning He offered me ideas of how to pray for Hubby without being ready to engage yet. What He showed me was a book on Kindle that I used for years to pray over Hubby, it’s called Thirty One Prayers for your Husband by Jennifer Smith. I used to use Stormie O’Martian’s book but this is a simple one on my phone that I can pull up anytime and since I will be on my Bible app anyway, it’s perfect.
Being on a team requires giving of yourself to another person and I chose Matt. I want to be the best wife for him that I can imagine. Doing that requires that I be a student of him in every way. Offering prayer is a simple way to love him well and doing it together with him is important. When I can’t think of what to pray, I will use my book and bless him that way. I know, after 28 years of marriage, that when I offer him my best, he typically will follow and give me his best. We are both growing and gratefully we get to do it together. I pray you will ask Jesus to give you some special way to be a great teammate for your spouse today. If you aren’t praying together yet, no shame, but challenge yourselves. I know it’s embaressing at first, but the more you practice the easier it gets and it’s a blessing to your spouse, your marriage, and you. Ask Jesus where to start. If you do pray together, ask Jesus to show you another way you can be a great teammate today. Have an awesome day!
“…The earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and produces wonderful results.” James 5:16b